Tuesday, October 05, 2010

A Woman's Answer to a Man's Question

Do you know you have asked for the costliest thing
Ever made by the hand above—
A woman's heart, and a woman's life
And a woman's wonderful love?

Do you know you have asked for this priceless thing
As a child might ask for a toy,
Demanding what others have died to win,
With the reckless dash of a boy?

You have written my lesson of duty out,
Man-like you have questioned me;
Now stand at the bar of my woman's soul
Until I shall question thee.

You require your mutton shall always be hot,
Your socks and your shirt be whole;
I require your heart to be true as God's stars,
And as pure as heaven your soul.

You require a cook for your mutton and beef;
I require a far better thing.
A seamstress you're wanting for socks and shirts;
I look for a man and a king.

A king for the beautiful realm called home,
And a man that the maker, God,
Shall look upon as he did the first
And say, "It is very good."

I am fair and young, but the rose will fade
From my soft, young cheek one day,
Will you love me then 'mid the falling leaves,
As you did 'mid the bloom of May?

Is your heart an ocean so strong and deep,
I may launch my all on its tide?
A loving woman finds heaven or hell
On the day she is made a bride.

I require all things that are grand and true,
All things that a man should be;
If you give all this, I would stake my life
To be all you demand of me.

If you cannot do this — a laundress and cook
You can hire, with little to pay,
But a woman's heart and a woman's life
Are not to be won that way.

Mary T. Lathrap
1838 - 1895

[Written in reply to a man's poetic unfolding of what he conceived to be a woman's duty.]

Photo taken Fall 1977
Hillsdale, Michigan


  1. Good picture! Will you e-mail it to me? :-D

    P.S. Would you be willing to let me tackle all your photos over Thanksgiving and get them organized into photo boxes?

  2. Yes, I will let you go through my pictures. Do you want to buy the photo boxes once you get down here? Like from Michael's? I will cover the cost.

    I will clear off a space for you to work in the basement... with good lighting and a space heater

    PS Will you teach me how to copy the ones on my hard drive to a CD?

  3. Yes, I'll definitely get the photo boxes once down there. I'll probably have a Michaels coupon or two in my e-mail to use as well. :-)

    And we can definitely get you set up with copying the ones on your hard drive to a cd.

  4. Aw, I like it Mrs. Jago! Thank you for sharing!